The achievement machine rewards you if you can demonstrate superiority – if with a thousand little gestures, conversational types and styles of dress you can demonstrate you are a bit smarter, hipper, more accomplished, sophisticated, famous, plugged in and fashion-forward than people around you. (p. 253)
When I read this about living in a meritocracy,
where value is measured by one’s talents and achievements,
and self-esteem is based on the approval of others
I think of the friend
nothing comes as news.
Whatever it is,
she already knows it
or saw it coming.
Note to self: Avoid this behavior.