We’re Talking About it, Just Not One Day a Week


“How about we choose one a week that we don’t talk about it?”

AFTER WE GIVE HUGS and send them off, the little family…

After the Tangoes are put away
and the Ken doll’s sandal is found laying on a table
and the Matryoshka dolls
are tucked back into each other, safe…

After I take care of the sticky
from the orange juice spill,
and smile,
thinking of the moment the cup tipped
and how much this old table has seen…

I am glad for the friend,
slowed by the storm
on his way from Michigan to North Carolina.
I am glad he accepted our invitation to stay the night,
glad to see his children again –
how much they’ve grown!
I am happy they remembered my house
and where the favorite toys were kept.

I am grateful for our chance to catch up,
to hear his story.
And I’m glad, I think,
we didn’t get into ours.

But mostly I’m glad
they didn’t see me cry.

* * *

SOMETHING’S got to give.

“How about for the new year
we choose one day a week
to not talk about it?” I suggest later.

Because we’ve been talking about it every day for months –
first thought in the morning,
last at night.
table conversation,
car conversation.
We consider it a good day
if no new shoes have dropped.

Heads on pillows,
we sigh long,
every 24 hours, like clockwork,
how we will ever fall asleep.
We always do, though.

Can we do it?
Can we pick one day a week and not talk about it?
Is it possible?
Is it healthy?

We refine the plan:
“If something comes up
we need to discuss, we will,
then choose a different day that week.”

And it feels like progress
’cause somewhere along the line
you have to take back control of your life
and maybe this is a start.

If we’re ever again
going to have a life
not dominated by this crisis,
better start now.

An act of faith that it’s possible. Practicing for it.

About Marilyn

Reading, thinking, listening, writing and talking about faith, creativity, ESL for refugees, grief and finding the story in a story. Student of Spanish. Foe of procrastination. Cheez-it fan. People person with hermit tendencies or vice-versa. Thank you so much for reading.
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5 Responses to We’re Talking About it, Just Not One Day a Week

  1. sarahfarish says:

    Amen…I’d love one day when we didn’t discuss or ruminate on “it.” Prayers to you:)


  2. juliana says:

    “It” isn’t necessary to define…we all have our own “it” that grows to consume all that we think about and discuss. Prayers for you and yours Marilyn in your “it”. Love you friend!


  3. Belinda says:

    Dear Marilyn, you have been in my thoughts and prayers at the start of this New Year. I have prayed and will continue to pray, that this year will be happier and brighter than the one past. Hugs!


  4. cassandrafrear says:

    As an analytic thinker, I benefit from deciding to NOT talk about something for a period of time. Once it has been thoroughly examined, then I need to practice God’s presence, peace, and patience.


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