Distinguishing between NEGATIVE VOICES and WISE COUNSEL

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Continuing on from yesterday’s post. . .


A question arises: How can I distinguish between good counsel and the voice of negativity? After all, sometimes I AM heading in the wrong direction or handling something unwisely and I need someone to point it out.

I got a good tip on this a few years ago when someone’s negative comments, spoken in anger, plagued my thoughts.

“Shake it off,” friends said. Easier said than done! Plus I didn’t want to simply discount what the person had said because I didn’t like hearing it. Maybe there was some truth.

A few months passed and the hard words were still on my mind, still stinging.

A friend I hadn’t seen in a long time called on some matter and, in the course of conversation, my predicament arose. She’d had a similar experience, not knowing whether to heed or discount someone’s words, and she offered this suggestion:

When someone speaks a load of negativity and you aren’t able to let it go because deep-down you wonder if they are right and maybe it’s something you need to be aware of, pray for God to bring the same message to you from someone whose love and concern you trust, someone you know is “in your court.” If it comes, heed it. In the meantime, you can loosen your grasp on those words that were spoken in anger and meant to harm you.

sands through open hand

And you know what?  She was right! I was able to unclench my hold on all those hurtful words and let them go, knowing that if that message came to me from some better place, they would not carry the sting, but be like light shining in.

Now, it was clear to Nehemiah WHO was speaking (in the last post) and where those words were coming from, but it’s not always clear to us.

I have a feeling I may have already blogged about this, but can’t seem to find it, if I did. Oh, well. Possibly someone needs to read it afresh. Possibly I needed to write it anew. Either way, hope it helps.

About Marilyn

Reading, thinking, listening, writing and talking about faith, creativity, ESL for refugees, grief and finding the story in a story. Student of Spanish. Foe of procrastination. Cheez-it fan. People person with hermit tendencies or vice-versa. Thank you so much for reading.
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One Response to Distinguishing between NEGATIVE VOICES and WISE COUNSEL

  1. Belinda says:

    What excellent counsel. I will remember it for future reference. I’m sure I’ll need it.:)


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