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THE LAWTON ROAD LADIES invite me back again this year to their Cookie Exchange

and despite
it being cold and dark outside
and my hair being askew
and me having a knitting project I’m eager to start
and concerns to dwell on
and feeling tired (the perennial fallback excuse)

I go!

And I am better for it,
which you knew before I even told you, didn’t you?

* * *

I CATCH UP with people.

One has taken up piano,
had her first lesson today.

“Can you believe it, at my age?” she says.

But I tell her
how old I was
when I took up Spanish.

And June tells her how old she was
when she took up oil painting.

And aren’t we like the 3 Musketeers,
sitting there,
all empowered?

* * *

I meet the woman from Italy
who lives in the house
surrounded by
a long, long hedge of burning bushes,
trimmed to perfection,
the one I pass by on my bike.

I meet the woman
who lives in the house
a black cat
is always crossing the street to get to.

I talk with the woman
who brought the Krumkake
and she tells me all about the process.

* * *

And those SPECIAL CLASSES
at the college
I’ve been thinking about,
but every semester I let them pass by?
Turns out
the black cat lady
and the piano lady
know all about the program,
speak highly of it.

* * *

I WEAR a pink scarf
that gets so many compliments
I will never take it off now
until it falls to tatters.
This is how I am.

* * *

I COME HOME
with an assortment of cookies
and new thoughts.
I don’t have time to dwell on my own stuff the whole evening,
yet the world manages to keep spinning. Make a note.

My hair is still askew,
but I have enough steam left
to look up the course offerings
at the college
for the winter term.

And to write this post.
Once again, it is good to get out and be around people.
Oh, I said that already this week. :-)

My Toasted Coconut Shortbreads

My Toasted Coconut Shortbreads

A closer look at Ingrid's Krumkake

A closer look at Ingrid’s Krumkake

The table of cookies.

The table of cookies.

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I was told I should write this. (Why do I feel the need to deflect blame at the outset? Hmmm….)

pen in hand

THE DAY AFTER I HEARD about the football player who shot the mother of his child and then, in front of his coach and others, turned the gun on himself, I thought of his teammates.

“It’s hard to reconcile the teammate you knew and the tragic events that happened…,” one said in the story in the New York Times.

Yes, that’s the challenge.

The “perfect teammate,” another said. How could this happen? How did we miss it?

At times like this, our ability to trust others takes a hit, but that’s not all. Our ability to trust our own instincts also takes a beating.

We may never be able to trust anyone again, but even more, we’re not sure we can trust our own sense of where people are and what’s going on with them. And it’s this latter thing that may prove the most unsettling.

These are tough waters to navigate and it can take a long time.

But I digress…

* * *

HERE’S THE THING:
If any of those teammates could have him back for just one minute, what is the thing they would want to say to him? What is the thing they would want him to know?

Would it be “I love you, man. I don’t understand all that was going on with you, but I love you”?

Would it be “I am so angry at what you did. This was preventable. Why didn’t you tell one of us you were trouble?”?

Would it be….what?

Possibilities are endless. There is no right or wrong answer. Each person has his/her own thought-whirlwind. But if there was a chance to say something, what would it be?

Think.

In light of all that’s happened,
in light of what’s now known,
in light of the tremendous crime…
Where exactly am I with a brother’s sin?
Where exactly am I with my brother?

Given the chance, what is the thing I want him to know?

* * *

If there’s one thing I know about processing a grief, it’s that being able to express what you wish you could say to the person who’s now gone is a tremendously huge step in the healing process.

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“HOLD ON. I’M GOING, TOO.”

In the grey and dark of a November evening
I force myself out.
I need to be intentional about socializing relating.

And besides,
as an act of faith
that I would go,
I made oatmeal cookies midday,
when I was full of determination.

Reaching into the bottom of the scarves-and-gloves box
I discover the ear warmer with the little cables
I knit last year.
waiting there
like an old friend
ready to pick up where we left off
last March.

“I forgot all about this one!” I tell him.
And that seals it.

You know it’s bad
when a simple decision -
to go or not -
becomes too hard to make
and I rely on a plate of cookies and an ear warmer
to make it for me.

* * *

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Earwarmer with little cables. FREE download at Ravelry. Click pic.

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